Yesterday was a horrible day and I wish I could go back and erase it. My phone got stolen while I was at a work function and C got a big fine for his car. Bad day. I can't believe people steal phone, and the worst part is all the information I lost, I didn't just loss a phone I also lost a diary, important notes, music, photos. Can't say I'm to happy about the fine, not good for our budget especially this close to the honeymoon.
But we have dinner with friends for Cs birthday tonight at our favourite Mexican restaurant hopefully it will cheer us up a bit.
Than on Sunday Cs off again for a work trip. Luckily only for a week, I hate it when he's gone.
Showing posts with label problem. Show all posts
Showing posts with label problem. Show all posts
Friday, September 18, 2009
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Update
We have a brunch venue, we have come an agreement with the Lodge (our original venue) we still have to hire the toilets but we found somewhere that can do it for a reasonable rate provided we pick up and return - fine with me. They also agreed to drop the additional charges and let us use the one site BBQs. I was still worried about spending the extra money but we've saved in a few other areas and we really did want to send the day with everyone by the river.
One of the biggest thing that has shaped our budget during the process is the desire to spend time to everyone and share the things we love the most, food, drink, location, food (I know we really like food - its a problem for us). This has meant we have rewritten our budget 100 times to make it work, and honestly we'll be a little over in the end but I'm yet to say I regret anything we spent money on yet.
One of the biggest thing that has shaped our budget during the process is the desire to spend time to everyone and share the things we love the most, food, drink, location, food (I know we really like food - its a problem for us). This has meant we have rewritten our budget 100 times to make it work, and honestly we'll be a little over in the end but I'm yet to say I regret anything we spent money on yet.
Monday, August 24, 2009
:( rant
So I'm not sure really want to say about this one, it seems reason doesn't always prevail and you can't always trust that spoken conversations are enough.
The problem is with our ceremony and Brunch venue the Shoalhaven lodge. Our plan for post ceremony had been to serve drinks post ceremony for the 45min so guest can mingle enjoy the surrounds and have some photos, while C and I have our photos. However they have decided that if we want to serve drinks we would have to hire portable toliets, even though we have hired all the the accommodation and the accommodation has 9 toliet (we only have 80 people max). This is dissapointing as it now means C and I plus the bridal party will stay have our photo and simply have to miss 45min-1hr of the reception.
The second problem, even though we had spoken about having all our friends back the next day and holding a brunch at the venue on the saturday a number of times both on the phone and in person, the owners have now decided we would need to pay $1200 + hire portable toliets. Considering we had hired the entire venue from Friday to Sunday and some of the venue on Thursday, $1200 seem to be crazy for having people stand and sit around for a few hours - we aren't putting up a maquee or anything. We where thankfuly able to negotiate this away, however the portable toliets are still a problem - C is looking into prices at the moment but I'm pretty sure we can't afford them.
What does it all mean, C and I + our wedding party will miss the 1st hour of our own reception and we have to find an entire new venue for the brunch and with only 3 month I'm alittle worried about being able to find anything. I'm alittle annoyed as i check all of this before booking anything, the reason we choose the Shoalhaven Lodge was because it was by the river we have and we were able to have all our friends back, if these problems had been brought up earlier we would never have booked, but 3month before the fact we aren't going to be able to find something else as everything is booked. We even offered to pay an additional bond and use the toliets in the cabins that we are already paying for anyway and any problems or damages (I can't really imagine any) would come out of the bond.
So now I'm running around talking to all of the other accommodation properties to asking if we are able to use their properties, hopfully that will be more helpful and reasonable. N ot what I wanted to do this close to the wedding, with so much still to do.
The problem is with our ceremony and Brunch venue the Shoalhaven lodge. Our plan for post ceremony had been to serve drinks post ceremony for the 45min so guest can mingle enjoy the surrounds and have some photos, while C and I have our photos. However they have decided that if we want to serve drinks we would have to hire portable toliets, even though we have hired all the the accommodation and the accommodation has 9 toliet (we only have 80 people max). This is dissapointing as it now means C and I plus the bridal party will stay have our photo and simply have to miss 45min-1hr of the reception.
The second problem, even though we had spoken about having all our friends back the next day and holding a brunch at the venue on the saturday a number of times both on the phone and in person, the owners have now decided we would need to pay $1200 + hire portable toliets. Considering we had hired the entire venue from Friday to Sunday and some of the venue on Thursday, $1200 seem to be crazy for having people stand and sit around for a few hours - we aren't putting up a maquee or anything. We where thankfuly able to negotiate this away, however the portable toliets are still a problem - C is looking into prices at the moment but I'm pretty sure we can't afford them.
What does it all mean, C and I + our wedding party will miss the 1st hour of our own reception and we have to find an entire new venue for the brunch and with only 3 month I'm alittle worried about being able to find anything. I'm alittle annoyed as i check all of this before booking anything, the reason we choose the Shoalhaven Lodge was because it was by the river we have and we were able to have all our friends back, if these problems had been brought up earlier we would never have booked, but 3month before the fact we aren't going to be able to find something else as everything is booked. We even offered to pay an additional bond and use the toliets in the cabins that we are already paying for anyway and any problems or damages (I can't really imagine any) would come out of the bond.
So now I'm running around talking to all of the other accommodation properties to asking if we are able to use their properties, hopfully that will be more helpful and reasonable. N ot what I wanted to do this close to the wedding, with so much still to do.
Friday, August 21, 2009
Lesson learnt
Ignore what ever anyone tells you, forgot how much faster the phone is, email is the best form of communication when dealing with vendors. That way you have everything in writing and can solve arguments and problems when they come up. if you have face to face conversations with people go home and write a follow up email to them about what was covered and agreed.
I have almost all my communication in writing, expect... (more on that later, still working) very frustrating. Lesson learnt, I'm not going to make that mistake again.
I have almost all my communication in writing, expect... (more on that later, still working) very frustrating. Lesson learnt, I'm not going to make that mistake again.
Thursday, August 20, 2009
it happens to everyone
Everyone will as some point in the planning process will come up against a major issue.
I think I've just got mine. Its not pleasant, its got my stomach in knots and my mind racing 1000 m/h trying to find a solution. I've tried so hard not to get my heart set on anything for the wedding incase things go wrong and I can't have them. I only let myself get excited about things when we are booked/done ready to go, that why it is so disappointing to think its not going to work. It seems crazy that I'm getting so upset and worried, at the end of the day C and I will still get married and we'll still be surrounded my our nearest and dearst, but that silly person inside that says "but its my wedding and I really want it" I don't like that little person and I will overcome it if/when need but for the moment C and I are negotiating hard and coming up with backup plans. I'm just hopping we can figure something out.
I'm just think it would be good if this is our only wedding crisis, it would work out nicely to have it over and done with earlier in the game, rather than the week/weekend of the wedding, that would be a really good silver linning.
I know this is very criptic but I don't want to put anything negative out their until I have attempted everything to fix it every way I know how.
I think I've just got mine. Its not pleasant, its got my stomach in knots and my mind racing 1000 m/h trying to find a solution. I've tried so hard not to get my heart set on anything for the wedding incase things go wrong and I can't have them. I only let myself get excited about things when we are booked/done ready to go, that why it is so disappointing to think its not going to work. It seems crazy that I'm getting so upset and worried, at the end of the day C and I will still get married and we'll still be surrounded my our nearest and dearst, but that silly person inside that says "but its my wedding and I really want it" I don't like that little person and I will overcome it if/when need but for the moment C and I are negotiating hard and coming up with backup plans. I'm just hopping we can figure something out.
I'm just think it would be good if this is our only wedding crisis, it would work out nicely to have it over and done with earlier in the game, rather than the week/weekend of the wedding, that would be a really good silver linning.
I know this is very criptic but I don't want to put anything negative out their until I have attempted everything to fix it every way I know how.
Saturday, August 1, 2009
Memories
It's my friend's engagement party on Saturday night and its got me thinking about our party. What went well, what went wrong and what we've learnt for the wedding.
What went well - I organised a party that: looked good and had a fun theme (carnival), had everything set up and ready to go with enough time to relax and get ready, came in on budget, we had heaps of great food, heaps of drink and lots of friends and family to share the night with us, and I did it all in a short period of time.
What went wrong, that list is very very long, just listing the major problems - it poured rain for hours, flooding part of the backyard (read: party), the verandah roof leaked drenching the bar, the power shorted out leaving us in darkness. We had hired a spit and a fairy floss machine - both got wet, shorted, actually sparking (it was a horrible 20min waiting to find out if we had destroyed the equipment and lost our money - thankfully we didn't). Our room mate the night before said he didn't want the party at the house, and said no one was to come into the house under any circumstances. In the end, we had no choice but to let everyone in. During the chaos, I was asked 1000 questions; some understandable, like where can we move the bar to, where is the power box, others silly and trivial (I realise people were trying to be nice and I'm greatful I have friends and family that wanted to help but with everything I had to deal with at the time it would have been really helpful and decreased my stress if people could have just taken care of some of the obvious problems by themselves without checking with me first...)
So what did we learn for the wedding? Make sure everyone knows whats going on so people aren't asking me anything on the day - if it hasn't been organised I don't care (and I really do mean that) I don't care about heaps of the little stuff I'm suppose to care about. Make sure I tell people that I don't want to know if something has gone wrong - if they can fix or fudge go for it, if its something really bad hopefully I can deal with it the next day. Make sure everything I've hired is out of the way and can't be damaged. Don't plan anything outside, Ok so my ceremony is but I have a backup venue and I'm actually expecting it to rain so I'm preparing myself to get wet and dirty to get good photos. Plan the day you want - don't do something just because its tradition or because its expected - it your party have fun and enjoy it.
Oh yeah I forgot we also had to move house the next day - worst idea ever! It wasn't planned that way but the house (rented) was sold so we had to get out. And we had a small fire (almost burnt down the house) during the day when we were starting the spits.
I'll post some pictures later
P.S: At the end of it all we had a great night, even with all the things that went wrong.
What went well - I organised a party that: looked good and had a fun theme (carnival), had everything set up and ready to go with enough time to relax and get ready, came in on budget, we had heaps of great food, heaps of drink and lots of friends and family to share the night with us, and I did it all in a short period of time.
What went wrong, that list is very very long, just listing the major problems - it poured rain for hours, flooding part of the backyard (read: party), the verandah roof leaked drenching the bar, the power shorted out leaving us in darkness. We had hired a spit and a fairy floss machine - both got wet, shorted, actually sparking (it was a horrible 20min waiting to find out if we had destroyed the equipment and lost our money - thankfully we didn't). Our room mate the night before said he didn't want the party at the house, and said no one was to come into the house under any circumstances. In the end, we had no choice but to let everyone in. During the chaos, I was asked 1000 questions; some understandable, like where can we move the bar to, where is the power box, others silly and trivial (I realise people were trying to be nice and I'm greatful I have friends and family that wanted to help but with everything I had to deal with at the time it would have been really helpful and decreased my stress if people could have just taken care of some of the obvious problems by themselves without checking with me first...)
So what did we learn for the wedding? Make sure everyone knows whats going on so people aren't asking me anything on the day - if it hasn't been organised I don't care (and I really do mean that) I don't care about heaps of the little stuff I'm suppose to care about. Make sure I tell people that I don't want to know if something has gone wrong - if they can fix or fudge go for it, if its something really bad hopefully I can deal with it the next day. Make sure everything I've hired is out of the way and can't be damaged. Don't plan anything outside, Ok so my ceremony is but I have a backup venue and I'm actually expecting it to rain so I'm preparing myself to get wet and dirty to get good photos. Plan the day you want - don't do something just because its tradition or because its expected - it your party have fun and enjoy it.
Oh yeah I forgot we also had to move house the next day - worst idea ever! It wasn't planned that way but the house (rented) was sold so we had to get out. And we had a small fire (almost burnt down the house) during the day when we were starting the spits.
I'll post some pictures later
P.S: At the end of it all we had a great night, even with all the things that went wrong.
Monday, July 13, 2009
minor hiccup
So we have our 1st minor hiccup this weekend. We went out to have all the boys fitted for suits and they looked bad. I know when you hire a suit you can't expect it to be perfect but the suits horrible, it looked liked they where wearing pants 3 sizes to big (but they where the right size). So we changed the suits, what else could we do?
So C and the boys will now be wearing darker suits and no jackets at all (expect if they want a photo with them on). C will be wearing a tie as well, he wants a fat light grey wool tie.
The new look
Anyone looking to hire a suit in Sydney should check out Spurlings in the next week or 2 they have a "Bridal Expo" special, so we got $70 off the price.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
running late
I have 6 1/2 months till the wedding and I'm already putting things off, I never thought I'd be the find of person to do that.
Tomorrow I really really need to print the envelopes.
Mr C and I have decided we want something fun for our 1st dance. I will cry probably the whole way through the ceremony so I'm determined that the reception will be a lot of dancing and fun. Check out shana and rob 1st dance, I'd love to do something a bit fun.
Going a slightly different route but hopefully still fun we've decided to go with... Not telling its a surprise. Looking forward to it, we are going to need dance lessons, I've found a local studio that does private dance lessons for a reasonable price.
Tomorrow I really really need to print the envelopes.
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